REVIEW: Steve Porters, How to Flirt: The TED XXX Talk by Daisy Doris May – Melbourne Comedy Festival


Steve Porters is a self-taught feminist, but also a ladies’ man who has some tips for getting the girl… the right way. With consent. Consent is key. But also be funny, be interesting and if you get knocked back, remember it’s okay. (Also, it’s a numbers game, so if you strike out with one woman, there’s always another. At the bus stop. At the coffee shop. In the audience of a Comedy Festival Show.)

How to Flirt: The TED XXX Talk is not just satirising the pick-up artist movement; it’s pulling it apart and putting it back together. Steve – living proof that gender is a construct - is the creation of Daisy Doris May, actor and drag king, whose performance rides the line between ridiculous and genuinely heartfelt. Daisy knows that joking about the men who use negging to trick women into bed is easy pickings. So, they have created a character who, while full of himself – in his backward cap and basketball jersey (number 69, of course) and baggy pants – is genuinely romantic and knows the right things to say. With some help from the audience.

The show relies a lot on audience participation, so be warned. Steve introduces himself as we’re waiting in line before the show. He also introduced himself to me on the way out of The Splash Zone, so I really did feel like a VIP when I sat on the aisle in the second row. But as much as he wants us to all let down our guards and compliment a stranger, at least I didn’t get dragged up on stage!

How to Flirt is a knowing deconstruction of the mechanics of meeting and flirting and dating. It plays with gender and expectations and upends what you might expect from a dude who thinks he’s an expert in what women want. It would be easy for this kind of show to fall into the trap of just playing misogyny for laughs. Daisy Doris May is smarter than that. And Steve is more thoughtful and giving than you might expect on first glance. Don’t tell anyone, but he loves to spoon.

How to Flirt is a laugh riot, cleverly subversive and the character of Steve is delicious in concept and execution. Just don't tell him that.

Daisy Doris May as Steve Porters is at the Town Hall – in the intimate Lunch Room space – until April 6 

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